Marci Manley: Finding my confidence in adult content
Tori Green: Who are you? What do you do?
Mars: I’m Mars - I never really know how to answer the question of what I do. But essentially I am an adult content creator and some might consider me an influencer. However, I am moving into the blogging world.
Tori: What was your first business (including running your own business)? How long did this last or are you still involved in the same business?
Mars: I am currently running my own business right now. I’ve always done independent contract work, but officially in 2020 I filed for my own S corp.
Tori: Biggest challenge? How did you get through it?
Mars: My biggest challenge as an adult was getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship. We really only were together for 3 years (starting at 19 yo with a man 6 yrs older), but it took another 3 years to really end things. That's when I moved to Los Angeles (from LB) to figure things out for myself. I’ve had to move (2x), get a new car, change my number, block him on multiple platforms and accounts - yet he still tries to contact me. I got through it with good friends, therapy and taking time to get back to myself.
Tori: What is something that you wish you could go back and tell yourself before starting this journey?
Mars: Build your self discipline, before building your business.
Tori: What did you do before owning your own/running your business?
Mars: I worked in cannabis for about 7 years. From bud tending, to managing a dispensary, to brand ambassador work.
Tori: What/who made you take the first leap?
Mars: Honestly, the amount of money I was making on onlyfans. I wasn’t exactly ready for it and to some extent it feels like it just happened to me. I knew it was a chance to level up my finances, but also my financial literacy.
Tori: Who was the first to believe in you and give you real support (financial/sweat equity)?
Mars: My mom & step dad have always been my #1 supporters in everything I do and have always been there financially when I needed them. When it comes to the blood and sweat though, my best friend V has been the one to really believe in me and push me to keep going.
Tori: Was this your dream job? If not what you’re doing, what was?
Mars: I’m not sure I would say it was what I had in mind. However, now that I’m here and living it- it sure is. I have the freedom to do what I want and that is a real blessing. Younger me thought I’d be a dietitian right now.. Lol
Tori: Why did you get into this field?
Mars: I began modeling and shooting with friends for fun. That led to working with some amazing photographers in Los Angeles helping me build my instagram following. I’ve always been into artistic photos, even those that include nudity. I began to reach out to some amazing nude photographers and work with them. It was so interesting though because I would meet other women on set and most of them were in SW, whereas I was just a college student in the cannabis industry. There might have been a bit of foreshadowing there I was too naive to see.
Tori: What is your biggest failure that you turned into a success?
Mars: Failures are tough, but everyone of mine has pushed me in a better direction. It took me a long time to realize that the end of phases of life or people in your life isn’t a failure. Life has a natural ebb and flow, it’s not stagnant. I’d say though, most recently, losing my job during the pandemic made me feel like a failure, but it pushed me so hard to hustle that I’ve made more money since covid than before.
Tori: If you could change one thing about your life today for the better, what would it be?
Mars: I’m working on changing my life everyday… and honestly there’s lots I’m working on changing about myself so that I can create the environment I want. But right now, at this moment. I’d love to have a nice house in the hills.
Tori: How is your life/work balance? Body, mind, and soul weekly routine? Do you say/write out affirmations?
Mars: My work/life balance could be better. I’ve been losing myself a bit and falling out of taking care of myself how I deserve. Mental health is something I struggle with and specifically when things get overwhelming for me, I tend to retreat. I write out my affirmations & am working on saying them
Tori: When was the last time you tried something new/ Stepped out of routine?
Mars: As much as I love being cozy and my routine- life gets dull without trying something new. I’m actually making it a point to get out of my regular restaurants, cafes, etc & to try new ones.
Tori: Favorite book that changed your life?
Mars: Ugh this is tough. Rich dad, poor dad was very eye opening to me in terms of money. The Alchemist has always been my reminder to go on my journey and to follow my dreams. Life is all a process of learning along the journey of where we’d like to go.
Tori: Do you think your gender gives you an advantage or disadvantage in today’s world?
Mars: My gender gives me both an advantage and disadvantage. On a societal level, America was built on both white and male supremacy. The world is still very much male dominated. I experience hate for just existing. I have to constantly think about my safety as well as my girl friends. However, I think there has been a boom in women taking advantage of the male gaze and mens impulses. In that sense we do have some advantage bc with sex comes power.
Tori: Have you experienced different treatment from your peers of the opposite sex?
Mars: Yes. Most men I think are my friend try to ask me out at some point, and when I turn them down they stop being my friend 🤡
Tori: Thoughts on the glass ceiling?
Mars: Women are breaking that shit down. It’s happening, slowly but surely.
Tori: What advice would you give your children/ future children about succeeding in a patriarchal society?
Mars: I would raise my sons to be aware of their advantages by being male and make sure they are humbled by that. It’s their job to help others and help level the playing field. As for my daughters, I would make sure they were aware of their disadvantages so that they could better play their hand. I would also instill them with so much confidence so that they are self assured in a world that makes women doubt themselves.
Tori: If you could talk to a young boy/girl from your hometown neighborhood who aspires to have your career/job/focus what would tell them? Advice.
Mars: If you’re going to put yourself online, 2 things - just do it (if you overthink it, its weird) and that you need to be your #1 fan because those close to you might not understand it
Tori: Fun fact about you?
Mars: Fun fact about me - my mom calls me Moo
Tori: Number one piece of advice you remember?
Mars: It’s kind of a cliche, but it's gotten me through a lot of though times, “This too shall pass”
Tori: Where can we find you online?
Mars: Insta @Eatwithmars_, tiktok @Eatwithmars_, OF @Eatwithmars, my website eatmars.com - possibly twitch soon.